J. COLE speaks the TRUTH about LIVING LIFE ... and society contamination.

I  was always a fan of J.Cole and I just fell in love more.
Anyone that speaks intellectual is amazing. :)

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A Few Things We Learned From J. Cole’s Angie Martinez Interview

Wed, Dec 17 2014 by Bitchie Staff Filed Under: Celebrities

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As mega rap stars go, Drake and Kanye West are always being thrown around in articles as being the voices of the millennial generation. But that title may honestly belong to J. Cole, as we learned after watching his emotional performance of “Be Free” earlier this week on Dave Letterman, and again during a recent interview with Angie Martinez.

The North Carolina rapper/activist sat down with the Power 105.1fm radio host last week for a lengthy, yet informative and eye-opening interview that may have rubbed some people the wrong way. (Truth always does). In the insightful convo, Cole shared his thoughts on today’s rap climate and being tired of rap music that influences kids negatively.

He also spoke on capitalism and broke down how “the system” keeps people oppressed, while explaining that anyone who works a job that they hate just to survive is enslaved.  The current whitewashing of rap music and its culture, his disdain for reality TV, and how he found happiness in learning to appreciate his blessings were all things that he spoke passionately about in the lengthy interview.

Watch it, plus catch a few things we learned below:

1. Most people are too distracted to advocate anything these days

J. Cole: “People at the top, love the fact that everybody is so busy with themselves and their own lives that they don’t have the time to stand for something or fight for something. Even somebody like me, who in college, I was President of the Black Student Union, we were holding meetings every week. It wasn’t a lot of action but we were talking, discussing ideas, talking about the world, and what can we do. It was a little bit of action in our minds of what we thought but even somebody like me who was a little bit more aware,  graduates college and it’s like, ‘Oh man, I gotta pay my bills now. I got to get this deal before my time runs out.’ Life happens, and you worry about all this stuff and you don’t have time to fight for anything anymore. You don’t even have the time to even care. ‘I got my own kids; yeah this man died but I got bills and Twitter is popping right now. Instagram is hot and ‘Love & Hip Hop’ reunion is on.’ It’s like they love to distract you and keep you occupied while they molest and milk the world. They love it…they love us!”

2. Rap songs that push materialism are tired

J. Cole: It’s amazing [what you can do with music.] It’s the most powerful thing. It’s even just as powerful when they don’t use [music the right way]. It’s just the wrong type of power. It’s just as powerful; we don’t notice it because we can’t see but it’s just as powerful. It’s just using its power the wrong way.

When I was younger, it didn’t matter. Now, I’m sick. I’m tired. It’s not cool no more. We’ve been singing the same song for 30 years. These dudes are portraying a lifestyle that A, they probably didn’t live. B, even if you did you don’t no more, but you still trying to milk us, feed us this and sell us this. You still trying to pump this lifestyle so that kid somewhere is like, ‘That’s what I want too.'”

3. People who have a platform and don’t speak up on social issues are doing a disservice:

J. Cole: “I’m just living my life but sometimes I do feel like I’m looking around and I’m like do you expect this guy to say something? Do you expect this guy to do something? I understand that I’m doing myself a disservice and I’m doing the people a disservice for all the years, [when I don’t speak up.] I’ve always been very politically correct. I’m a nice guy; I don’t want to offend nobody but at the end of day I realized, I’m doing people a disservice because I can say one thing that connects the dots for somebody that might be the right connection that was needed to want to change the world or something.

4. The love of money and materialistic things is the root of all evil:

J. Cole: There’s no amount of money that will ever make you stop, if money is all you care about. You’ll keep going; oh, I got a million. I got to get 10. Got 10. Gotta get a 100. Got to get 5. Got to get a billion. If it’s cars, you’ll never have enough cars. If it’s women, you’ll never have enough women. You’ll be chasing them forever. If it’s success, you can never get enough of that. I realize that, it doesn’t stop. It keeps calling you; it’s like a drug. It’s a hamster wheel. You’re never satisfied but if you place your importance on this, which is like appreciation…LOVE. That is enough. It’s enough of that in everybody’s life right now if they just took the time to look.

5. Hip Hop may be all-White in the next 20 years and we are witnessing the transition now

J. Cole: “To give you an example, I just was looking for new music the other day, maybe like a month or two ago and I was like, ‘I just wanna go listen to some jazz. I just wanna know what’s jazz sounding like right now?'”

So I went to the iTunes jazz page and I was like -ohhh! It hit me! the entire page of iTunes jazz is 99.7 percent white people on the jazz page!

Now, somebody might be like ‘So, whats the big deal?’ It’s fine. Anybody can do whatever music they want. It’s art, it’s whatever. But you have to understand, jazz is a Black form of music in its origin and not only that, it was the hip hop music of its day. It was that much of a rebellious [culture], it wasn’t just music, it wasn’t just traditional, it was just freestyle. It was just purely Black. It was hype. Whether it was Coltrane or Miles Davis, it was purely a Black form of music.

So now 50, 40 years later, however long it’s been since jazz has been commercialized, it’s just crazy for me to see that that page is all white. And it hit me- even before- this is the point in time where you see that switch in hip hop. You’re literally watching it right now.”

6. Most reality TV is trash

J. Cole: “Trash [TV]. I can’t watch it. I’m going to tell you the truth; it’s like Worldstar Hip-Hop. If it’s on, please believe it’s drama so it’s entertaining. It’s drama at the lowest level of entertainment you can have, it’s trash but it is entertainment and drama. This is corrupting people and people don’t even realize. Like, ‘It’s just on TV, it’s just entertainment.’ Okay, but where’s the balance? Where’s the other ones? What other shows do you watch? Not even do you watch because I don’t want to put it on you. What other shows do they show you that can counter this, or is this all you get? It’s like the music. What  music can counter this right now and don’t name me or Kendrick [Lamar] because it ain’t enough and we just got here. So what was happening before that? All that stuff is trash.”

 7. If you are being enslaved by working a job you hate, you could be considered a sellout too

J. Cole: “I don’t just mean people that’s pimpin’ themselves out on TV, or just selling their bodies. I’m talking about people that go to a job every day that they hate. You sold out too. We’re all sellouts. You’re going to something that you don’t like?  Why? So you can live and survive. To me, life don’t feel like it’s supposed to be like that no more. It don’t feel right.

It feel like somebody time gotta be worth more than $8 an hour. So you spend your whole day going to work, eight hours out of your day, the day is only 24 hours. You sleep eight of those, so that’s 16 hours. Half of your day is making $8 an hour. Even if you get $15 an hour and they’re trying to raise minimum rage to what, $15? Okay, but I got to do it. I got to work. I got to eat. [It’s like being] on a plantation, man.”

8. He Rides A Bike. (All the cars, jewels and material things he once thought he wanted, don’t mean anything to him anymore )

J. Cole: “I sold my car. I had a Range at one point, but I sold it. I ride a bike now through Manhattan. I don’t have a car. No more car.

[My jewelry] is still there. and I wear it . But I got it for the wrong reasons. It don’t mean nothing. It don’t really mean nothing and it didn’t mean anything when I got it.

I hit the point in my life where I’m a grown man and I’m questioning why did I want it? And then, what did it do for me when I got it? And it’s cool to have whatever, I’m not judgmental at all. Have your things. But don’t place value on them. It’s just a thing, it’s not real. It’s not real. Love is real.”

9. When your life is built on appreciating and being grateful for the things you do have, that’s when happiness becomes attainable:

J. Cole: “It doesn’t sound big but it’s big. Appreciating everything. Right now, I’m making sure I’m taking the time [to appreciate everything that’s happening to me]. There’s no guarantee that you’re going to get this back and I took that for granted on the mixtapes and the albums. I was just so caught up in my career. Where am I at? What are they saying about me? They’re not going to put me here? They’re going to leave me out, word? Alright, I’m going to show them.

What I realize is the monetary, the material and even the success the things you place your importance on, can never satisfy you or make you happy, because they never end.

In my life, I just took the time to look around people that’s around me, and the things that are around me as blessings. And that goes for everybody.  The homeless man on the street can wake up and go, ‘Man, I’m alive. I got my limbs, I got my fingers. My man just gave me a dollar and he ain’t have to do that.’ He has things he can appreciate and if we look at those things for happiness, then it’s attainable. If we look for the other things for happiness then it’s never attainable.

We’re placing our importance as a country, on the wrong things.  We’ve let this system of the world tell us that these things are important, the new. Oh, you got the flat screen joint but you ain’t got the 60-inch joint. You got the 60-inch joint, but you ain’t got the 60-inch 3D. It’s exhausting and tiring, but the world tells us that.”

By the way, as far as album sales, J. Cole had the best first week sales of any Hip Hop album in 2014. This week, he topped the Billboard chart with 361K units sold, and his album broke Spotify’s streaming record with over 15.7 million streams of the LP in one week. The previous record was held by One Direction.

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Sometimes the people we LOVE....

One of the hardest things I deal with is letting go of the people I love. It is not as easy for me to accept I am no longer that person and sometimes neither are they. It just comes to the moment that it hits you... sometimes the people we love are no longer the people we love. Life experiences and environments take hold of humans and the people we grew to love no longer exist.

K. Michelle - Can't Raise A Man [Official Video]

I'm annoyed by how many memes females post on social network "If you have a good girl.... treat her etc etc etc" ughhhhh...... ladies we are so much better than that. :/ Some men in this world don't want to treat a good girl the way she needs to be treated. Ok cool, want to stress a man, go ahead and do it. Value yourself and don't sit here posting 7xs a day.... about it. And if you are doing that... where are your friends? Seriously. Stress it to your friends not to a worldwide public network. If you feel you are a good woman, then you deserve a man who knows how to treat one... not a man that you need to teach him.



Women don't know the POWER it is to be a WOMAN. Don't demolish your power by exposing your weakness for the world to see. If he can't see that on his own.... oh well. Keep it moving. Yes it hurts but keep it moving. :)

He got older, but never grew,

For his life he can't tell the truth.

How to love he ain't got a clue,

Playing games like he'll never lose you.

Try to talk to him, can't get through,

Every day he's a different dude.

These are the signs of a grown ass boy,

Better run for the hills,

I'm just trying to keep it real.
(full lyrics at bottom)

"Can't Raise A Man"

Cant raise a man

Mmh mm

Ahh ah ah ahhh ah ahhh ah ah ahh

Listen,

He got older, but never grew,

For his life he can't tell the truth.

How to love he ain't got a clue,

Playing games like he'll never lose you.

Try to talk to him, can't get through,

Every day he's a different dude.

These are the signs of a grown ass boy,

Better run for the hills,

I'm just trying to keep it real.

You can't raise a man.

He's already grown, what you gonna do?

You wonder why he acts like a boy.

It's 'cause he wasn't raised right before you

Girl, you ain't never gonna change nobody,

If he don't wanna, you can't make nobody.

'Cause you can't raise a man, no, no.

Coming home any time at night,

Expecting you to let it ride

How many tears are you gonna cry?

Playing games like he'll never lose you

You know that the love is changed,

How many times he called you out your name?

These are the signs of a grown ass boy,

Better run for the hills,

I'm just keeping it real.

'Cause you can't raise a man.

He's already grown, what you gonna do?

You wonder why he acts like a boy.

It's 'cause he wasn't raised right before you

Girl, you ain't never gonna change nobody,

If he don't wanna, you can't make nobody.

You can't raise a man, no, no.

Gonna take more than a miracle to change him, just let him go.

Tell me when will you decide to do better with your life?

If his momma couldn't do it what makes you think

You can train that boy to be a man? It's too late.

Better off letting him go, no matter how hard you try you can't raise.

You can't raise a man.

He's already grown, what you gonna do?

You wonder why he acts like a boy.

It's 'cause he wasn't raised right before you

Girl, you ain't never gonna change nobody.

If he don't wanna, you can't make nobody.

'Cause you can't raise a man, no, no.

Ahh ah ah ahhh ah ahhh ah ah ahh

Can't raise a man

6 Traits of a Cheater

Someone tweeted this article and thought it was RIGHT ON THE MARK!!! I think all women have been with a cheater at least once in their life. I'll leave it up to you to agree or disagree.

 

6 Traits of a Cheater

 Reuben Holmes
(http://www.apollofeed.com/relationship-tips/2013/9/26/6-traits-of-a-cheater?utm_content=buffer12cbc&utm_medium=social&utm_source=twitter.com&utm_campaign=buffer)
                  

 Many cheaters share common personality traits that can help you spot them. Extreme flirtation and compulsive lying are just a couple of big ol' red flags that can tip you off. There's no way to prevent an affair but there are ways to see the type that is most apt to cheat and enable you to leave that relationship long before the hurt.

Extreme Jealousy - Many cheats are very jealous and insecure. Often the jealousy that they project towards their spouse is a reflection of their own personal unfaithfulness, whether it be emotional cheating or physical cheating. They will often deflect their own suspicions on their partner. They automatically think everyone is cheating just because they are. Even if their partner is innocent of the charges.

Emotionally Manipulative - In order for their unfaithfulness to remain undetected, a cheater must manipulate the person they are cheating on. It's a way to keep their partner off-balance and make them second-guess their gut instincts. Most seasoned cheaters are very skilled at emotional manipulation. The ones that are not manipulating their spouses or partners are often the ones that are caught by someone they know or by their partner. They may also be the ones with a conscience and may truly be feeling dishonourable with respect to their actions.

Overly Flirtatious  and Insecure - Not all flirts are cheaters. Being overly flirtatious can stem from a need for attention which is caused by insecurity or low self-esteem. An affair often alleviates those feelings of insecurity. Flirting can open the doors to infidelity because it's often based on sexual chemistry which can ignite the fire of infidelity. Infidelity is a non-realistic form of attachment because it is based on only the fun times unlike the happy, sad, trying times that you may share with a mate. Often this masks an underlying fear of abandonment. The fear of being alone can make someone seek an additional relationship as a security that they won't be left alone.

Insatiable - Often cheaters are unsatisfied in their life. Whether it's emotionally, or sexually, they are continually looking for that something that they're missing within themselves. They are seldom content with their lives as they are and seek out new ways to fill the void in their emotional being. Additional relationships are a temporary fix for them and often this trait is shared by a compulsive or serial cheater.

Compulsive Lying - While a compulsive liar may not be a cheater, often lying and deception is a two-pronged skill that a cheater is adept at. Most serial cheaters are seen as compulsive liars because it's a convenient way to mask their illicit affairs. It also helps to keep their partner second-guessing themselves and leaves them free to carry on their cheating ways.

Narcissistic - A narcissist has a sense of entitlement that most others do not. The are able to use other people for their own pleasures without giving a second thought to their victim's feelings. Always very selfish and highly greedy, they feel entitled to their needs and make no apologies. In fact, they will often deflect with lies and manipulation in order to fuel their exploits.


Published on September 26, 2013

Always #LikeAGirl

No lie I almost shed a tear.... lol Yesss I tear for it all. 

Ladies lets show people what the power of a women can do. :) 

Personality Test

I found these personality test to be very good in definiting your character and behavior.

Be completely 100% honest if you want accurate results.

Pretty on point. :) 

(1) IPIP Personality Test: http://www.personalitytest.net/ipip/ipipneo120.html

(2) MBTI Personality Type: http://www.personalitytest.net/cgi-bin/q.pl

People hate the TRUTH, luckily the TRUTH don't care

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Confidence: Because I'm an asshole.!

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Gabourey Sidibe brings the type of confidence to a room that most women can only dream of having, and on any given day, you can imagine how many times she overhears someone say, “Damn, how is she so confident?!” But has any of us ever stopped to think how much of a backhanded compliment that is? Gabourey has. And she talked about it in the incredible speech she gave at the Ms. Foundation for Women Gloria Awards and Gala Thursday night.

In the moving speech, Gabby talked about being secure with herself and how she feels about being asked, “How are you so confident?” while wondering if Rihanna ever gets hit with the same question.  She also revealed how her parents’ indirect words shaped her and how seeing an iconic pic of her aunt–feminist and activist Dorothy Pitman Hughes–and Gloria Steinem throwing their fists up every day unknowingly inspired her into becoming the fierce woman she is today.

Get you some Kleenex and read the transcript below.

“Gabourey, how are you so confident?”

It’s not easy. It’s hard to get dressed up for award shows and red carpets when I know I will be made fun of because of my weight. There’s always a big chance if I wear purple, I will be compared to Barney. If I wear white, a frozen turkey. And if I wear red, that pitcher of Kool-Aid that says, ‘Oh, yeah!’ Twitter will blow up with nasty comments about how the recent earthquake was caused by me running to a hot dog cart or something. And ‘Diet or Die?’

This is what I deal with every time I put on a dress. This is what I deal with every time someone takes a picture of me. Sometimes when I’m being interviewed by a fashion reporter, I can see it in her eyes, ‘How is she getting away with this? Why is she so confident? How does she deal with that body? Oh my God, I’m going to catch fat!’ What I would say, is my mom moved my brother and I to my aunt’s house. Her name is Dorothy Pitman Hughes, she is a feminist, an activist, and a lifelong friend of Gloria Steinem. Every day, I had to get up and go to school where everyone made fun of me, and I had to go home to where everyone made fun of me. Every day was hard to get going, no matter which direction I went. And on my way out of the house, I found strength. In the morning on the way out to the world, I passed by a portrait of my aunt and Gloria together. Side by side they stood, one with long beautiful hair and one with the most beautiful, round, Afro hair I had ever seen, both with their fists held high in the air. Powerful. Confident. And every day as I would leave the house… I would give that photo a fist right back. And I’d march off into battle. [She starts crying] I didn’t know that I was being inspired then. On my way home, I’d walk back up those stairs, I’d give that photo the fist again, and continue my march back in for more battle. [She pulls a tissue from her cleavage and dabs her eyes] That’s what boobs are for! I didn’t know I was being inspired then, but I was. If they could feel like that, maybe I could! I just wanted to look that cool. But it made me feel that strong.

[...] ‘How are you so confident?’ It’s my good time, and my good life, despite what you think of me. I live my life, because I dare. I dare to show up when everyone else might hide their faces and hide their bodies in shame. I show up because I’m an asshole, and I want to have a good time. And my mother and my father love me. They wanted the best life for me, and they didn’t know how to verbalize it. And I get it. I really do. They were better parents to me than they had themselves. I’m grateful to them, and to my fifth grade class, because if they hadn’t made me cry, I wouldn’t be able to cry on cue now. [Dabs tears] If I hadn’t been told I was garbage, I wouldn’t have learned how to show people I’m talented. And if everyone had always laughed at my jokes, I wouldn’t have figured out how to be so funny. If they hadn’t told me I was ugly, I never would have searched for my beauty. And if they hadn’t tried to break me down, I wouldn’t know that I’m unbreakable. [Dabs tears]

So when you ask me how I’m so confident, I know what you’re really asking me: How could someone like me be confident?

Go ask Rihanna, asshole!

Read more: Necole Bitchie.com: Gabourey Sidibe’s Inspiring Speech On Confidence Is A Tear-Jerker http://necolebitchie.com/2014/05/gabourey-sidibes-inspiring-speech-on-confidence-is-a-tear-jerker/#ixzz32H7aGJFh
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Real Connections Are Impossible Because People Are Too Focused On Sex’

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Click full blog ---->> Keke Palmer: ‘Real Connections Are Impossible Because People Are Too Focused On Sex’

People make it impossible to make real connections because they are too focused on getting to the sex! I mean, how can you expect to get to level ten when you haven’t passed steps 1-9. We all have to be careful of the energy we let into our bodies. Why am I gonna have sex with you to find OUT if you can love me down the line?  Shouldn’t you love me before we get there? Things happen, yes, but it’d be best to wait it out. Allow for a true connection to be made without physical intrusions.

I’m out here trying to make REAL connections. My flesh will never be able to compare to what is in the HEART. It’s really disappointing though. Cause you can like someone & be shut out simply because you won’t put out. #pushfoward I value myself too much to play myself to the left in such a way. We are too good for that y’all, we deserve more. As women, chemicals go off when you have sex w/ someone it causes a form of attachment; reproduction is want the body wants. So you may THINK you love someone because you had sex with them. But it could be HORMONES.

Do not let your body guide you. Listen to your heart. The man you could be in the bed with may look fine on the outside. But he could be the enemy himself. It’s not even about titles. It’s about respect & appreciation. Whoever gets to have you must VALUE YOU. If the person you’re dealing with does not realize you are worth the effort & the time.. THEY DO NOT DESERVE YOU.

I shouldn’t have to give you all of me for you to invest. You need to believe just as I do in you, then you’ll be rewarded.

What can you tell us about abstinence and the dating scene?

Both men and women pressure each other for sex. We’re young, live your life and enjoy yourself. My thing is, people need to be with those who respect you. At the end of the day, whoever you spend your time with make sure they value you. If you feel over the course of time they are deserving of whatever it is you would like to give them, fine.

Money, Cash, Hoes’ thing needs to be deaded.....!!!!!!!

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Is Hip Hop holding us back as a culture?

Rapper Kid Cudi thinks so!  This past weekend, he stopped by The Arsenio Hall show to promote his new movie ‘Need For Speed,’ and things got real serious after he was asked to look into the camera and tell his rap peers what Hip Hop needs to do.  He revealed:

I think the braggadocio ‘Money, Cash, Hoes’ thing needs to be deaded. I feel like, that’s holding us back as a culture, as black people. It doesn’t advance us in any way, shape, or form. We’ve been doing that same thing for years now. It’s been like, four decades of the same ol’ bullsh-t.  Sorry for my language.

And I feel like, if you’re gonna be an artist, there’s a time where you just have to embrace the responsibility and understand the power of music is something so special and to be able to do it in this magnitude where you reach millions of people, it’s like, why not use that for good? Why not tell kids something they can connect with and use in their lives?

Kid Cudi also revealed that he has been dealing with loneliness and suicidal thoughts for a long time and his wish is that artists could make more music with positive messages that would give young kids today guidance:

Really, my mission statement since day one, all I wanted to do was help kids not feel alone and stop kids from committing suicide.

I dealt with suicide for the past five years. There wasn’t a week or day that didn’t go by where I was just like, ‘You know? I wanna check out.’ And I know what that feels like. And I know it comes from loneliness. I know it comes from not having self-worth, not loving yourself. These are things that kids don’t have music that can coach them and give them that guidance. I didn’t have that. I had to listen to Jay Z and take certain things from it and the other sh-t I just didn’t know what he was talking about.

And now I’m 30 and I’m like, ‘Oh! That’s what Hov was talking about! I get it now!’ But what about the kids…you never had an artist where you connected with them all across the board, you know? And I think that’s my job. I’m just really just trying to guide people and help people because loneliness is a terrible, terrible thing, man and if you don’t know how to conquer it, it can eat you alive.

When asked about his current mental state, Cudi revealed that he is now fine. “I’m good. I’m alright,” he said flashing a bright smile.

You definitely don’t hear a rapper saying this every day.  Kids nowadays are so impressionable and they want what the money, cars, clothes, and bad chicks that they see in videos and hear about in rap songs. That to them equates to success. Unfortunately, a lot of the positive stuff with progressive messages doesn’t get that much radio airplay (with the exception of Macklemore –that’s a whole other discussion — and a few J. Cole, Kendrick Lamar, Nas and Drake tracks). Who’s to blame?

What do you think of Kid Cudi’s thoughts on Hip Hop?

Read more: Necole Bitchie.com: Kid Cudi: Hip Hop Is ‘Holding Us Back As A Culture’ http://necolebitchie.com/2014/03/17/kid-cudi-hip-hop-is-holding-us-back-as-a-culture/#ixzz2wF2whKfT
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What is "MAIN" or "#1" girl exactly mean????

I NEVER liked the term wifey, main or any of those that sounded it as if there was other levels below me. I and my friends never agree on dating and relationship. Glad to know there is someone out there who thinks the same. Mya explains below...

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On her thoughts of being considered ‘a trophy’:
I think women are sometimes labeled or possibly pursued as or looked at as objects. You know, surface. In younger, less mature relationships, it’s usually surface attraction. Let’s start there. And then you hear all kinds of new school lingo, like, ‘main,’ ‘side’ and ‘trophy’ or ‘wifey.’ I’m like, ‘What are those things?’ I don’t do ‘main,’ okay? I don’t do ‘number one’ ’cause that means there’s a ‘number two’ and ‘number three.’ I don’t like that kind of stuff. ‘Main,’ what does that mean? That means there are others. I don’t like those kind of words. Also, I don’t mind ‘trophy’ because it means there’s a prize but there’s work to do, which ‘Like A Woman’ describes. There’s work to do to get to know me. That’s what a relationship is. Get to know me. All of the surface stuff, that is here and gone tomorrow.

On cheating and relationship double standards:
All of those girls that you text on your phone right now and sending all kinds of crazy videos and poses, that’s cheating. Because if you found any of that in my phone, because you voiced that you don’t want to find even a guy’s name that you might know in my phone, then what you’re doing is cheating times 10!
When you admire a female, or whatever it is you admire, you’re admiring that. I don’t mind a guy looking at another female when we’re in public. Females and women are beautiful, but don’t create double standards in a relationship. Don’t ever do that. Don’t have a problem with me when I want to look at some eye candy over here because I’m allowing you to look at eye candy over here. It’s a fair situation. It’s a two-way street.

Read more: Necole Bitchie.com: Mýa Dishes On Relationship Double Standards And Why She’s Not Looking To Be Anyone’s ‘Trophy’ http://www.necolebitchie.com/2014/03/03/mya-dishes-on-relationship-double-standards-and-why-shes-not-looking-to-be-anyones-trophy/#ixzz2uvy7Per2

Melanie Fiona speaks on the definition of Success.

I have began a blog about Success and Friends. Not finished yet, sitting in the draft section. But this article is perfect for what I have coming soon....

BLOG COPIED FROM NECOLEBITCHIE.COM

Melanie on finding balance in happiness and your career:

People assume that you get to a certain point in your life and you live a certain way, and I remember for 7 years while I was trying to get a record deal, leaving Canada. Let’s talk about that I came from Canada. My parents are Caribbean. They are immigrants and they are old school traditional parents. And here I come, saying, ‘I’m going to go to LA and try to be a singer!’ It was terrifying but I’ve always been one to take risks. I’ve never been one to back down from a challenge.

Even in doing music, in previous years, there’s always been a fight to do what I wanted to do and be what I wanted to be. In the beginning, I turned down record deals because they wanted me to be something that I wasn’t comfortable with at the end of the day. And that’s a scary thing too. Not to conform and concede to people telling you, ‘If you do this, [you'll be successful]‘ and I’m okay with that. I’m not scared of the hard work or the journey. It helps build character.

Melanie on her definition of success

Success is happiness.  That’s it. Too often we allow other people’s expectations to be put on us and to define what we have to live up to and what makes us successful. The thing that you can definitely control is your choice to be happy.

Melanie on love

I would say, figure out the type of love that you want for yourself and be open to that and really manifest that. I really believe that you can say, ‘I want this type of love and I see it, and yes I’ve been hurt and sometimes my doubt is stronger than my faith, but I believe in it.’ And I believe it will find you.

Read more: Necole Bitchie.com: [Video] Melanie Fiona Shares Personal Struggles And Relationship Advice At ‘Girl Talk With Melanie Fiona’ http://necolebitchie.com/2014/02/26/video-melanie-fiona-shares-personal-struggles-and-relationship-advice-at-girl-talk-with-melanie-fiona/#ixzz2uRhcFnh3
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2014/02/26/video-melanie-fiona-shares-personal-struggles-and-relationship-advice-at-girl-talk-with-melanie-fiona/#4B4md4KiS73br9kM.99

Bob Dylan Interview with Time Magazine -1965 What is the truth?

"The audience that want to know what happening in the world week by week, that work during the day and read it small, and its concise, and its pictures in it. Those certain class of people that take the magazine serious."

"If I want to find anything, I'm not going to read Time Magazines, Newsweek, I'm not going to read any of these magazines. Because they got too much to lose by printing the truth. You know that."

Necole Bitchie Black Weblog Awards Blogger Of The Year Speech

I'm huge on following people that came from nothing and turned it into everything. I couldn't help my tears from coming down when watching this video. If you don't know me by now, I am emotional. lol. I'm the female that cries through the romantic movies.

How did I become a fan of www.necolebitchie.com?
Trying to reach my dreams in the fashion industry you kind of fall into following celebrity gossip. A friend put me on to (no promo for this negative blog site). I was hooked. Then one day a few years ago my friend who is a PR told me about Necolebitchie. I want to say it was 2009. I started reading her blog and noticed that she was selective about what she posted. I also picked up that she was a reliable source that wasn't thirsty posting everything for hits. Its very rare you will go on her site and catch a juicy rumor with a headline the way you would go on (no promo for these negative blog sites, lol).  People feed off negativeness and drama. Common you can sit and deny but you know that is how we all ended up watching all these negative reality shows. So that definitely is a factor I respect her on taking a risk with her business.

At this point she is pretty much the only website I go on, not so much for the CG but for her movement believing in God, faith, good deeds, and striving to be a better person and spread love in the world. :)

I can relate to this woman in a million ways. I will not focus on all the points but the one that caught my attention was her insecurities on speech.

Necole...started from the BOTTOM. Now she here. <3